Christian Discipleship-Accountabilty

Clarifying Discipleship at Church Ablaze the past 3 weeks. In order to make disciples that follow Jesus, it will require you to be a good accountability partner. Leading another man or woman to maturity in Christ takes time, sacrifice, and patience. The essence of accountability is if you fail I fail… if you succeed I succeed. I feel with you, I cry with you, I laugh with you, I celebrate with you. I must give an account for you as if I were you and you were me. My actions are not independent but will have an effect on who I am yoked with. Accountability is a stimulant to spiritual growth and to intimacy with the Father and the Body of Christ. Here are a few attributes a good accountability partner should have:

1) Transparent…not afraid to express their weakness that God has made strong. Not appearing Holier than you really are…But being Holy as God is Holy which is through Christ’s Righteousness
a) Mat 5:3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
b) 1Cor 15:10 But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.
c) Phil 3:12-13 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus. (13) Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,

2) Patient and willing to work with someone to get to the heart of a matter-Prov 20:5 Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.

3) Able to hang in there with someone through the hard times-Prov 17:17 A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

4) Not fearful to go encourage someone through the tough issues. I Sam 23:16 And Jonathan Saul's son arose, and went to David into the wood, and strengthened his hand in God.

5) Never expecting the same quality of friendship you give out to be returned. Your thoughts are how to help the other and the by product you will develop a good relationship
a) Pro 18:24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
b) Rom 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another

6) Not afraid to rebuke the person, not afraid to correct, even if it hurts, You never are concerned with the others reputation or your own.
a) Pro 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
b) Heb 3:12-13 Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God. (13) But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.

7) You master the art of meekness in bringing correction or you will find yourself disqualified to help your accountability partner
a) Gal 6:1-2 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. (2) Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

8) Willing to give Godly counsel and receive counsel.
a) Pro 27:9 Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel.
b) Psa 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

9) Not so prideful that you can’t be told anything
a) Jam 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
b) Pro 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

10) A person that looks to bring conviction of sin through the word versus condemnation. Also, seeks to edify versus cut down.
a) Pro 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
b) Joh 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
c) Rom 14:19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.

11) Will keep things confidential
a) Pro 11:13 A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.

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Success in the wrong things

I picked up a quote today off twitter “My greatest fear? Succeeding at the wrong thing. That would be succeeding and failing at the same time”, Mark Batterson. I retweeted it and also posted it to my Facebook site because I liked it so much. I got a question from one of my Facebook friends, “What would be the wrong thing to succeed at?”, which is a very good question.

In general, the wrong thing to succeed at would be things contrary to God's will for your life whether good things or bad things.

Bad things are like lust of our flesh, lust of the eyes, and the pride of Life (I John 2:15,16). My prayer is that when we call Jesus LORD we hold nothing back and surrender all to Him since He gave all for us. Often we retain things that stroke our egos and satisfy our lust. I called them "pleasure sins" those are the wrong things to succeed at.

On another note, there are some things that are not sinful at all; but the question is, “Are you suppose to be doing it?” I Cor 3:11-15 paints the picture of a person that builds upon the foundation of Christ but with the wrong material. An analogy I heard, tells the story of a painter that takes weeks to paint the wrong house. Jesus has a narrow, restricted way for us to walk in that leads to life; but often we take the broad, convenient way which leads to destruction. Things I choose independent of seeking God’s direction are the wrong things to succeed at. Things that are not done for the Glory of God are the wrong things to succeed at. Things that are not done God's way are the wrong things to succeed at.

My prayer is when I go before the throne of judgment I do not want to hear God say, “those were great buildings you designed Jonathan, but I called you to preach my word, share with the lost, love your wife, and raise Godly children..I had to find somebody else to do what I called you to do.”

NOOOO!!! NEVER!!!!!

I could easily get distracted, ignore my family, the church, and all other people the rest of my life and build a Fortune 500 engineering company. That would be success and failure at the same time for me. Success in the business world but a failure in things that have eternal value (i.e. wife, children, and God's people).

What would be the wrong thing for you to succeed at?


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Overcoming Adversity, Depresion, and confusion

Sometimes we feel troubled, confused, persecuted, and cast down; but if the Christian can embrace this passage then there is nothing that can keep them down……

2 Corinthians 4:7-12 (kjv) 7 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.8 We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;9 Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;10 Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.11 For we which live are always delivered unto death for Jesus' sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh.12 So then death worketh in us, but life in you

Trouble on every side yet not distressed
If you ever feel like every direction you go in is trouble or like you are inside of a big Cube and the side walls of the cube are closing in from the left, right, front, back, top, and bottom. It is OK to feel like that but just know that you WILL NOT BE CRUSHED.
Perplexed but not in despair
If you ever just feel completely confused and you can’t find a way out, nothing seems to come clear to you and it seems like you can’t even think straight. That OK! Just know that you still have hope and that hope can bring you out of the confusion. Just because you are confused doesn’t mean that you don’t have hope. Just because you can’t see your way out doesn’t mean that there isn’t one. You only have hope in things you can not see or it is not hope. A terrible position to be in is to be confused but then not to have any hope for a clear path, or to not have a God to rely on, or not to have people that love you. I would rather be confused all my life versus not have any hope.
Persecuted but not forsaken
If you feel like people and situations are persecuting you, if you feel like you are being harassed or just completely wronged by a person. That's OK. But just know that you have not been forsaken, you have not been forgotten about, you are not a cast away, You are not left to stand alone. Jesus said he would never leave you. Let the persecution come as long as the Christian has Jesus you will be able to stand. As long as we are in the world there will be some form of persecution, but that's OK. God will not always take the persecution from you but will be there to guide you through it. If I knew that the rest of my life there would be some hard times I would rather choose to go THROUGH it knowing I was not alone versus going through it feeling like I was forsaken or a cast away.
Cast down but not destroyed
If you ever feel gloomy, cast down, head hanging low, depressed, or like you have been just struck to the ground. That's Ok. Because you are still alive, you still have existence, you still have natural life and eternal life. You have not been eliminated there is still fight left in you. The Christian can be knocked down but will get back up again and again and again.

A Christian has to realize that there is a part of them that is not like God and has to die every day in order for Jesus’ life, Jesus’ teachings, and Jesus’ ways to become real in their life. We have to die to our sin, our pride, our jealousies, our anger, our unforgiveness, etc. It is ironic, that it often takes us getting to the point where we realize we can't do it alone that God's excellent power brings deliverance. Some of our hard times are seen as Glorious in God's eyes because the hard times nudge us to take our fingerprints off of our lives and yield to His excellent power to bring deliverance. Trouble, confusion, persecution, and depression may come but God's power will hold them at bay so that we won't be distressed, hopeless, forsaken, nor destroyed. This is the treasure we have as Christians: we decrease He increases in our lives and some times adversity is the catalyst to God's excellent power.

Nothing says it better than the chorus of one of my favorite hymns He Brought Me Out :
He brought me out of the miry clay
He set my feet on a rock to stay
He put a song in my soul Today
A song of Praise Hallelujah

If the Christian can embrace the above passage then there is nothing that can keep them down.

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Fatigue, Fish and Fun???

This is a post from my wife's blog Grace and Truth that I had to share. Lisa never ceases to amaze me..she will do about anything for the little ones.
I was so, so, so tired today when we got home from co-op. The children were buzzing with energy, but all I wanted to do was lay down on the floor and take a much deserved nap. Well, since my determined and sweet little 7 month old has now claimed the living room floor as her new domain, that did not happen. Instead I watched her show off her ability to get from point A to point B, cheering her on all the way.

By the time I mustered up enough energy to fix dinner, the boys told me that they had defrosted the fish they caught yesterday in a trout derby and they were planning to gut them. "No, no, no boys!" I know what that meant. It meant I would have to be in the kitchen gutting fish with them. That was absolutely the last thing I wanted to do with my last few hours of the day. Ugh!

But.......after dinner and devotions, I let them gut the fish. I googled "how to clean a trout" and we cleaned, gutted, and skinned fish for the first time....together.

Why did I clean the fish with them? Because I am "SUPERMOM"? Not hardly. Because all day long, all I think about is what fun and messy activity I can do with my children? Well maybe sometimes, but not today. Definitely not today. All I wanted to tell them was to throw the fish in the garbage and call it a day. But nonetheless, I let them clean the fish because I have been challenged with the thought that, on this earth I am going to be spent for something. We are all going to use up our last bit of strength or last bit of time for some worthy or unworthy cause. Why not be spent for my children's or the gospel's sake. In this case, I dragged myself to the kitchen and I built memories with my children. They now know, thanks to Google and YouTube, how to clean and cook the fish they catch. This is a part of preparing them for life. God even blessed me with a small spurt of excitement and enthusiasm, just in time to get fish juice in my eye. Yuck!!

I am still going to go to bed good and tired tonight, but now I will be good, tired and satisfied knowing that I added to my love list today.

By the way, Renee Ellison is a wife, mom, teacher, and home school speaker. Her e-book "Burn Out" is what I have been reading for encouragement these days. Her website is www.homeschoolhowtos.com

Hill Family Summer-Change and fun

Well I am currently playing catching up after a busy summer. Updating the blog got pushed to the wayside for a little while. I am going to learn the skill of blogging short and sweet (Maybe).

Here are random things that happened this summer in the Hill House:

1. The boys and Liberty love basketball, they are on the Oklahoma Storm which is an organized homeschool league that plays all the city teams for competition. Between four children, practices, tournaments, and coaching Lisa and I were on our toes this summer.
2. Early this summer the children took swim lessons at the YMCA...the younger ones are gaining confidence.
3. I got to have daddy time pretty consistently with the children this summer. I have explained all that in previous blogs called: Daddy time
4. We got a visit from an Iowa friend and former coworker, Bridget Johnson and we had a wonderful time of fellowship and she got to visit church with us.
5. Lisa's niece, Shirah, from Iowa stayed with us for two months of the summer..she had a blast and fit right in with her cousins.
6. Lisa's Dad, Terri, and Lisa's brothers and sister came down for three days to visit and that made my wife's summer...she is still a daddy's girl. We played games, visited water parks, arcades, ate and had tons of fun.
7. Lisa lost a grandpa so she went to Iowa to spend a week with her family and attend the funeral. She was very happy that she was able to reconnect with her family. This was her first time being back to Iowa since our move in 2007.
8. My dad had a major surgery then followed that with a stroke which left him hospitalized for over a month. I got to serve my parents and help out for a week in Iowa. Blogged about that here: Aging parents
9. We moved my dad and mom (and their two grandchildren they are raising) down hear to Oklahoma from Iowa. That was a major move but God was faithful through it all. Will blog about that later.
10. I had two other former coworkers from Iowa, Kim and Lynn, visit while they were passing through. It was a pleasant surprise.
11. I had my best friend from High School, Eric Delker and family, stop through for a night and hang out..that was a treat. We got to catch up on old times and go do fun family stuff together.
12. We got to go amateur river rafting and camping with the church family in Teloquah, OK. We had a blast-rafting, fishing, eating, volleyball, cards, swimming, etc.
13. We visited the Witchita Mts. here in Oklahoma with the church family basically hiked, took pictures, and let the children explore.
14. The marriage ministry Eye to Eye had one of the best Summer BBQ and Olympics we have ever had, it was fun and educating and a pretty good turn out.
15. The GIFT (Godly Instruction and Family Training) homeschool coop has been active during the summer planning for an educational fall term. We pasted the president baton on to the Williams family and we now serve as vice-presidents.
16. Our boys and girls group (Contenders and Keepers of the Faith) went great this summer. Ten boys learned how to change oil, tie knots, and maintain physical fitness. Seven girls learned to cross stitch and several other skills. The heart pricking thing is seeing the children grasp the character of Christ through the lessons and seeing them apply it in their daily living.
17. With Church Ablaze, God is knitting the hearts of our Church Family...we have spent alot of time doing fun things together and building lasting relationships. I can see people growing in Christ and affecting others lives around them. I love the Church and everybody in it. I work with two of the best leaders in the country, Clarence Hill and Nate Williams, I feel spoiled.
18. Hill Engineering Group is still pressing forward. I am still the sole owner and this is what God is using to put food on the table...I am working on small projects currently and need to ask, seek, and knock for some bigger projects to come through the door. I also took my education to be a licensed home inspector and will be taking the test this fall.
19. Lisa and I fight to keep our God, our marriage, and our family first in the midst of following God's call in our life. The times it gets difficult is when we are not seeking Him first. We consistently have to recalibrate our priorities to be sure we are staying close.
20. If any of our ministry partners are reading this blog I just want to say thank you for the support. It really was a blessing for us this year.

That's it for now...It has been an opportunistic summer..Lot's of change and lots of opportunities for God to show us HE is faithful all the time.

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Sunday Recap-False Teachers

False prophets, false teachers, false pastors, false evangelist, false bishops, and such alike, all had their true colors revealed this last Sunday at Church Ablaze. We didn't get into naming names but we sure pulled the curtain back on some of their sneaky doctrines that are causing masses to be led astray.

Last Sunday's message was so rich no one wanted leave. We are getting close to concluding our series on the Sermon on the Mount called "The Gospels Ablaze". Matthew 5-7. We landed on Mat 7:15-20 this Sunday and exposed some false teaching. It was Nathan William's turn to speak and he laid it all out for us. At the closing he had an open mic session for anyone that was aware of false teachings, that they had either seen or been victim to. It was jaw dropping to say the least.

False teachers typically have three M's a method, a motive, and a message.

1. Their method is by coming to us in sheep's clothing but inwardly they are wild wolves
2. Their motive is to steel, kill, and destroy
3. Their message is a false, temporary peace that leads to following after other gods.

Other random wisdom nuggets were:

• False teachers become what is familiar to you to gain an advantage.
• They find your weaknesses, then use them against you.
• Just because everyone looks right, doesn't mean they are right
• They capitalize on the outward signs, demonstrations, commanding voices, loud microphones, all while the words they are actually saying are laced with false teachings and strange doctrines.
• Don't judge a prophetic word based off of the vocal tones, heighten emotion, intense stares, or strong grips, but rather simply this..is what being told to you true or not?
• Most people go off what they see and they don't investigate.
• Most are led to believe that to investigate a teaching or a prophesy is showing a lack of faith but it is really showing prudence and shores up your belief
• The Church in Berea (Acts 17:10,11) even took the time daily to search the scriptures on Paul who was an apostle and wrote two-thirds of the New Testament. How much more should we be examining our favorite TV evangelist or people we hear in pulpits today.
• We should be giving attention to two words, prove and validate. In the mouth of two or three witnesses let every word be established. ( II Cor. 13:1, I Tim 5:19)
• A prophet that will not submit to being judged for what he or she has said is in violation of I Cor. 14:39-41.
• God has no problem confirming his word. We have problems waiting on Him.
• Miracles are real, alive and active today, but beware of what is said after everyone has been captivated by the miracle. False teachers use the miraculous as the candy to lure us into the candy store then fill our minds with their false teachings which are contrary to the word of God.
• False teachers will prophesy blessing, riches and peace even if there are cursings, poverty, and war. Their goal is to satisfy itching ears.
• You can tell a false teacher by their fruits. You may hear a good sermon come out of their mouths on Sunday morning, but are they living like a child of hell the rest of the week?

To avoid being ensnared:

• Study to show yourself approved (II Tim 2:15)
• Seek the truth not just any answer. If you just want an answer any old thing will do.
• Truth is a person. "I am the Truth" Jesus said in John 14:6. Anyone that avoids Jesus Christ being the only way to the father is avoiding truth.
• Mark false teachers and don't listen to them no matter how good it makes you feel. Koolaid is sweet. :-)

Some current false teachings:

• There is no literal Hell
• There are many paths to the same God
• I am Jesus Christ
• I have another book that is a companion to the Bible
• You must go through me to get to God
• The Elitist that take a small truth out of the word of God and build a ministry around it and send everybody else to hell that doesn't accept it until you find yourself isolated from people you once called brother and you are the only right person in the whole world.
• Taking faith to un-biblical extremes; to the point where people believe that they have no faith because it didn't turn out the way they said it would.
• Treating giving like a Vegas slot machine. Living unrestrained, sinful lives but thinking you can sow a financial seed and get 100 fold increases on your money.
• Special chants and confessions that can twist God's arms into doing exactly what you say.
• Relying on visions, angels, and prophesies that are contrary to the word of God.
• On and on and on...

This verse below says it best:

II Timothy 4:3-4 For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, (4) and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.

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Daddy Time Pt. 4-Wisdom for children

Yes, it is Daddy time! That special event where I get to spend one-on-one tine with my children. Jerod our second born is ten going on twenty four. When I think of Jerod, I think unique. Sometime the little boy has my wife and I in amazement. On our daddy times in the past we have gone to the book store with our drawing pads, found good pictures in a book and drew for thirty minutes. On this specific daddy time he wanted to learn some new basketball moves so we went to the park.

I am perplexed at how this DNA thing works. My wife and I looked at each other and said, "how did we produce a child that is like neither one of us?" This guy takes obedience, diligence, and consistency to another level. He reminds me of rules I made that I forgot about. His favorite words are "Daddy said this, Mommy said that, God said this". I will have to blog about his personality later. Needless to say I have learned alot from watching him. He is living proof that parents are here to shape and mold but God has put something in our children that we did not originate.

Jerod is so funny, I have tried to stress the importance of spending quiet time with God in the morning and getting up in prayer and reading the bible. Well I am embarrassed to say this boy puts me to shame. He often wakes up before me and is typically 10-15 chapters ahead of the rest of us in our reading. The boy comes and borrows my parallel Bible, study Bible, and Strong exhaustive concordance. Like I said earlier it is amazing to watch God working so purely in a young child and at such a young age. Daddy time not only is a time for me to teach my children. But I have to say I am taking notes too. Jesus said unless we become as a child we will not enter the kingdom.

In Part 3 of this "Daddy Time" series I asked the question, "why do we read out of the book of proverbs on daddy time?" Here are seven reasons:

1. Proverbs can be read in a short amount of time. Since the Proverbs are like a collection of one-liners we may only end up reading one or two verses and discussing it. It is long enough to make the point, but short enough to not lose their attention.


2. I want my children to have more than just head knowledge, but know how to apply that knowledge in wisdom. Head knowledge says, lying is a sin. Wisdom says, not only is lying a sin but tells you the type of people that lie, why they lie, what circumstances tempt them to lie.


3. Proverbs are abstract, this is perfect for children. The book uses lots of parables, similes and metaphors. It gets their minds and imaginations working in overdrive to seek understanding. The book is designed to cause you to seek. That is one of the keys to being wise is knowing how to seek, listen, and get understanding. For example: Prov 3:6,7"Be not wise in thine own eyes, fear the LORD and depart from evil, it shall be health to thy navel and marrow to thy bones." Oh man! We could talk about this one for hours...What does it mean to be wise in your own eyes? Are you suppose to be scared of God? What does it mean to depart? What is the purpose of a navel? What is marrow to your bones? You see two verses of scripture can teach about five to ten different life principles to my child in 15 minutes or less. Now that is customer satisfaction.


4. Proverbs cover a broad range of subjects. If I were to come up with my own things to talk about they would always be funneled through my own interest. Reading the proverbs kind of gives a dad some structure and insures you are giving your child a more exhaustive view of the world through the lens of scripture.


5. Proverbs has a built in "How to" manual for teaching my children how to be wealthy, how to be diligent, how to manage business, how to handle money, how to choose the correct path, how to avoid sexual immorality, how to control anger, how to control their tongue, how to be a fool, how to be wise..you get the picture. The redundancy of some of the principles helps drill home the point.


6. Proverbs is the single most important book in the bible or any book ever written on child discipline and training. If it wasn't for this book Lisa and I would be lost in a sea of child psychology and expert opinions that would be leading our family down a chaotic and stressful home life. The book acts as a third party that reinforces your principles in your home.


7. Most of Proverbs were written by one of the wisest men on earth (Prov. 1:1). Solomon had wisdom that was put in his heart directly from God. The wisdom he was given exceeded all of the kings of the earth. (I Kings 4:29-30, I kings 10:23-24). There was one with wisdom greater than Solomon, Matt. 12:42, and that is Jesus Christ himself. In James 1:5, God said he would freely give wisdom to everyone that ask. So to give my children exposure to this caliber of Godly wisdom is an opportunity I cannot pass up.

I love Daddy time! God desires all Fathers to turn their hearts to their children. Malachi 4:6 "And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers..." I am learning that in order to have my children's heart they must have mine.

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